Creating Queer/Trans Inclusive Imagery with Bluestockings Boutique & Qwear

By Alysse Dalessandro
on July 23, 2017

Creating Queer/Trans Inclusive Imagery with Bluestockings Boutique & Qwear

Sometimes I am in awe of the opportunities that I have as a plus size blogger. Often times, I have to pinch myself and ask 'is this really happening?' And when Sonny of Qwear asked me to be a part of a queer/ trans lingerie shoot with Bluestockings Boutique, I knew I had to figure out a way to be there. 

It turns out that figuring how to be there was no easy feat. The shoot was in New York on the same day I already had an obligation in Pittsburgh and it was only a few days after I returned from another trip. I decided that I was going to drive to New York and be there for less than 24 hours to do this shoot. I was in the car for a total of 14 hours in two days. If that all sounds wild to you, let me explain why being a part of this shoot was so important to me.

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Look Inside Gwynnie Bee's New York Flatiron Pop Up Shop

By Alysse Dalessandro
on May 02, 2017

Look Inside Gwynnie Bee's New York Flat Iron Pop Up Shop

Have you ever wondered what it would be like to walk into a store that was set up like your dream closet AND actually be able to fit into everything? It sounds too good to be true but it's real! Gwynnie Bee has brought their online plus size subscription service offline and into a pop up shop right in the heart of New York's Flatiron District.

The store opened in early April and is open daily from 11 AM - 8 PM at 134 Fifth Avenue. The pop up runs through May 29th so if you're in New York or have a trip planned, don't worry - you haven't missed out yet! When I first caught wind of the new Gwynnie Bee Flatiron Pop Up, I was elated to realize that the trip I already had planned to New York coincided with the opening in early April. I made it in town in time to attend the opening event alongside a few of my favorite fellow influencers. Then, I came back the following day to get a more intimate view of the set up, meet with the GB team, take a whole bunch of pics and of course, try on everything!

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I Have Diabetes and I Still Love My Fat Body

By Alysse Dalessandro
on March 19, 2017
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I Have Diabetes and I Still Love My Fat Body

A year ago today, I sat in my doctor’s office. I was leaving for a cruise with my then-boyfriend the next day. I had gone in a few days prior for a physical because I needed a prescription for motion sickness patches. I figured that doing a physical rather than a well visit would mean my insurance would cover the appointment I really just made to get the patches. I have never been so grateful to be cheap.

When my doctor insisted I come in for a follow-up, I tried to tell him that I couldn’t come because I had a cruise to go on the next day. He insisted I make time. I’m glad I listened. He told me that I had diabetes. It’s funny to me now but my first question was “can I still go on the cruise?” I’m pretty sure I was in shock. We talked through my immediate treatment needs and some additional tests I would need to go through to ensure I could go on the cruise the next day. I took most of it in stride before truly breaking down.

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Introducing Big Fig Mattress - A Mattress Designed for Plus Size Babes

By Alysse Dalessandro
on February 24, 2017

Introducing Big Fig Mattress - A Mattress Designed for Plus Size Babes

If there's one thing I've learned over the years, it's that you can't rule the plus size fashion world without a good night's rest! And that's why I am so excited to introduce you to Big Fig Mattress, a new brand that's transforming sleep for plus size and big and tall folks. 

I first found out about Big Fig Mattress when I was lucky enough to visit one of my blogger besties, Corissa of Fat Girl Flow, on set for her shoot with Big Fig where she modeled alongside her husband, Nate for the Big Fig site. The images turned out absolutely amazing and seeing a plus size couple like Corissa and Nate in promotional images brought tears to my eyes! 

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Five Lessons I've Learned Being In Business Five Years

By Alysse Dalessandro
on February 03, 2017
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Five Lessons I Learned Being In Business Five Years
Five years ago today, I sat at a cubicle at my corporate job in Chicago and I launched the Ready to Stare's Etsy shop.  I never would've imagined I would be here sharing five lessons I've learned being in business five years. I never imagined that my retail design business would now be winding down so that I could focus on blogging because I never even imagined I could be a blogger. Ready to Stare was actually the name of the blog I was too afraid to start in 2012. In 2017, Ready to Stare is my blog. 
Should you follow your dreams? Absolutely. Will it probably be the hardest thing you've ever done? For sure. Running a business means you will have to face a lot of your own insecurities, face your fears and be uncomfortable 99% of the time.

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52 Week Money Challenge : What I Learned

By Alysse Dalessandro
on January 02, 2017
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52 Week Money Challenge 2017

Over the past year, I completed the 52 Week Money Challenge because I wanted to try something different for the start of 2016. I've spent years of my life before discovering fat positivity on New Year's resolutions related to hating my body and doing everything I could to change it. And while I've ditched any type of body image related New Year's resolution, I still like to use the New Year to start a new goal. Last year, I took savings offline and took on the 52 Week Money Challenge. And I am happy to report that I was able to save more than I needed to half of my deposit for a two-week trip to Italy in summer of 2017! 

I was inspired to take the 52 Week Money Challenge when I read a post on Tumblr about how the person had completed it: what worked for them and what didn't. For the purposes of accountability, I invited my best friend and roommate, Kristen, to do the challenge with me. I knew it would be a challenge for both of us but for different reasons: I am a natural saver but at the beginning of 2016, my client load for freelancing wasn't where I needed it to be so I didn't have a lot of extra money coming in to save and well Kristen will be the first to admit that saving isn't necessarily her forte. 

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Talking Body Image On Good Morning America!

By Alysse Dalessandro
on August 10, 2016


On Tuesday July 26, I was featured in a live nationally televised Good Morning America segment on body image alongside GMA correspondent Mara Schiavocampo and her sister body positive writer Pia Schiavocampo of the blog, Chronicles of a Mixed Fat Chick. At the end of the segment, we all did yoga in Times Square. In addition to the televised segment, we participated in a Facebook live discussion where we were able to go into more detail about our own journey to self love and acceptance. I talked about about learning to see a more full picture of health to include mind, body and spirit and my own liberation from diet culture.

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The Curvy Women Who Rock Brunch + Fave Looks from Curves Rock Weekend

By Alysse Dalessandro
on August 09, 2016

In July, I traveled to Baltimore for the 5th annual Curves Rock Fashion Weekend. The four-day long event featured shopping, panel discussions, a runway competition, mixer, and an epic fashion show. 

I was a part of the Saturday morning Curvy Women Who Rock Brunch panel alongside of the plus size fashion industry heavy hitters. We were asked about cultivating personal style and learning to tune out other's opinions about who we should be. The brunch also featured a fashion presentation by some of the designers who were also featured in the fashion show and an awards ceremony honoring curvy women who rock in the community. Between the panel discussion and the acceptance speeches from the honorees, I know that we all walked away inspired and standing firm in our truth. 

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I Was The Curvy Couture Brand Ambassador at theCURVYcon!

By Alysse Dalessandro
on August 07, 2016


In June 2016, I traveled to New York City for the second annual CURVYcon where I served as the brand ambassador for one of my favorite brands, Curvy Couture. In addition to helping introduce people to the wonders of Curvy Couture lingerie, I had the opportunity to meet so many of my fave fellow bloggers and social influencers. 

Produced by plus size bloggers Chastity Garner of GarnerStyle and CeCe Olisa of The Plus Size Princess, the CURVYcon brings together plus size fashion retailers from across the country (and a few from across the pond) for one of the biggest in-person plus size shopping events. The event also featured panel discussions regarding personal style, blogging and designing. 

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Reflecting On Four Years Of Ready To Stare

By Alysse Dalessandro
on February 03, 2016
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I believe in celebrations. In fact, I celebrate quite often. When it comes to celebrating Ready to Stare's first Etsy sale on February 3, 2012, I've never missed an opportunity to break out the streamers. 

For Ready To Stare's first anniversary, I threw an epic trunk show/party at BLAIR. And last year, I wrote about my biggest hits and misses including the time I accidentally gave someone $90 change. I have prided myself on being able to put a positive spin on all of the ups and downs that I have experienced as a business owner, but this year, I feel not discussing the downs as real struggles is doing my audience a disservice. I want to get real about what running this business is actually like while also sharing an unexpected positive outcome. After talking with my friend Corissa from Fat Girl Flow, who is a huge support system to me, I knew that this is what I needed to do.

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