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Youâll always be unhappy in a relationship if you donât love yourself first. And if you are in a relationship with someone who doesn’t love him/herself, they won’t have the capacity to love you in return.
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Look for a partner whose needs you can meet and who can meet yours in return. You donât need to have the same needs or abilities but you do need to be able to meet them for each other. Mutuality is the best deterrent of resentment.
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Being single is not something to apologize for. Â Being single is necessary for your own development and growth. If you don’t feel like you’re enough without someone, you’ll never be enough with someone.
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It is far better to be alone than in a relationship or a situation with someone who canât meet your needs.
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Trust what people do â not what people say. Consistent actions are the most important indicator of someoneâs intentions. Someone who says they want to be with you but runs at the first sign of accountability is not ready to meet your needs.
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If it seems too good to be true, it probably is. Patience reveals deception. Always feel someone out before jumping into a situation.
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If someone says they are not ready, believe them and walk away. Nothing you can say or do will change their mind. Be glad that they saved you from wasting your time.
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Donât be a prisoner of your past. Learn from your experience but donât hold your new partner accountable for your past partnerâs mistakes.
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Donât be afraid to close the door with someone. Our fear tells us to leave the door open because we are afraid that someone else might not come along, but leaving the door open for the wrong person prevents the right person from walking in.
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Your partner’s passion and drive must meet yours. The most important thing you can have in common is the life you want to live.
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Itâs okay to be cautious. Itâs okay to have boundaries. If you donât feel comfortable expressing yourself to that person, you are not a good match.
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No one should tell you how to dress, act, talk, feel or who you can or can’t be friends with. An insecure partner will use control as an attempt to make you weaker while a confident partner will encourage you to be the best version of yourself.